Breaking up because of lack of intimacy I’m in serious need of advice with my boyfriend so I joined this site as a last resort. Hopefully, someone out there can help! My partner and I have been living together for just under a year (before that we met online and had never met in person). Before we met he would always talk about how much he wanted me, we would talk about sex and what we wanted. I’m 21 and he’s 24 btw.
Breaking Up Because Of Lack Of Intimacy
Eventually, when we moved in together we were having sex once a day for a week or two (and that was pushing it for him). Then not long after it went to once a week, once every few weeks, and now to none at all. The last time we have sex was over a month ago. And it’s not just sex that has stopped, we don’t kiss anymore, I have to nag him to have kisses and hugs. For more informative blogs visit Place Do
We have spoken about this many times, I have told him how much it hurts me emotionally to constantly be rejected, and how much I hate nagging him for it. He always says it is a problem he has had his whole life and that he’s never really been “that into sex”, and that he thinks it’s a result of his depression. But it doesn’t make sense to me because online he wanted it every day! This might be too much info lol but before he met me he masturbated at least a few times a week.
I have tried everything! I have tried making things more adventurous, I have tried walking around looking revealing, I have tried playing hard to get, but nothing works! Every time I am rejected. In previous Breaking up because of lack of intimacy, I was a once-a-day kind of girl, but now I would be over the moon with once-a-week. I have gotten to the point where I don’t try anymore, and recently I have caught myself having sex dreams of other guys/my exes and fantasizing over other guys. I would never cheat on him, I love him, but I am not willing to spend the rest of my life with him feeling so lonely and depressed.
We have other issues in our Breaking up because of lack of intimacy, but this is what is making me not even want to be in the same room with him anymore. Every time that we talk about it he says he will try to be more frequent because he knows how much it hurts me, but nothing ever changes. I have asked him if it is me, if there is something wrong and he says it’s not me. I don’t think it would bother me as much not having sex if he was intimate with me in other ways. Like if he gave me kisses without me having to ask, or wanted to spend the day with me doing something romantic.
He always says that he is struggling with things (he has depression), and that he wants to be alone, but that he loves me and he will try to fix things, but there is only so much waiting I can do! And FYI he isn’t gay before you ask lol.
Does anyone have any advice at all before I give up on him? I don’t want to, but it’s hurting me a lot to be with him, and now that I’m tempted by other guys… if he doesn’t change it’s only a matter of time before I leave.
